October 22, 2006

Love Hurts


“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”

60 comments:

Janet a.k.a. "Wonder Mom" said...

Yes. True.

JAMESEE-ST-SMILE said...

good picture

Thebodytalk said...

You are right.

Love is something that you need to wear as accessory but you don't know why you need it.

Choosing an accessory that matches your outfit sometimes gives you headache and if you choose wrong one, it ruins your great outfit for the whole day. But you can fix it by taking of that accessory and you can have a great look again.

Love is worse. First of all, you can't choose whom you love, can you? When you love someone, you love someone. If you love a wrong person, you get heartache. It can even ruin your life, right? But you can't easily take of that love from your inside. It just attaches to you and follow you like a shadow. Whenever it gets a chance, it attacks you from inside and put you in the dark.

When you see some necklaces or bags really cute, you just can't help buying it, right? Then, you get home and look into your closet and can't find anything match. You starts having headache, but you can return it anytime.

However, Love...Could you throw away in the trash can or could you return it even though it came with a receipt? Not likely, I guess.

Lizza said...

Yep. Opening up your heart to someone leaves the door open for great happiness...but also for great pain. But that's the risk we all take/took. :-)

Hope your weekend is going well, Iridescent One.

BarnGoddess said...

yep, Love is scary and it hurts.....

Id rather break another leg than fall in love

ian said...

Lovely Irene - what brought this quote to light?

It's so true...there is no greater joy than love, and no greater pain than love denied.

I've felt both.

Ian

houseband00 said...

Hi Irene,

I sooo feel with that. =(

Irene said...

Janet: It is, isn't it? :p

Jamesee-st-smile: When I saw the broken, bleeding heart, I thought it was a perfect complement to the quote. Thanks for visiting! Hope to see you again. c",)

TheBodyTalk: I believe you can't choose whom you fall in love with, but you can choose whom to love. That's the difference that can save us from further pain. (",)

Lovely Lizza: Exactly. To really appreciate, know and value true love, you sometimes have to have your heart broken first. c",)

BarnGoddess: But's when you do find THE right one, it's still worth it...broken heart and bones and all! :p

Ian the Irish: I think we've all felt both love and love denied at one time or another, although in different degrees.

Neil Gaiman, the famous author of many best-selling graphic novels, came up with the quote. It was so powerful and true, I just had to post it.

Houseband: I know. Sigh! But I still remain hopeful for you. c",) Happy weekend!

bahan*kelabu said...

hi irene,
neil gaiman is one of my favourites too. i'm reminded a toast he wrote "to absent friends, lost loves, old gods, and the season of mists; and may each of us always give the devil his due."

Irene said...

Bahan*Kelabu: Yes, Gaiman's very talented. He visited the Philippines a few months back and he was a hit! c",) Thanks for dropping by. Hope to see you again soon!

fida said...

"The attribute of compassion is not taken away from the heart of anyone except the ill-fated".

Irene said...

Fida: Interesting Islamic quote by Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam. (Hey, I do my research!) Thanks for dropping by! c",)

Susan Abraham said...

So many aspects to love Irene, and all so hastily merged together that perhaps its personality can never be wholly defined...its layers of surprises never properly counted.

JR's Thumbprints said...

Have you ever heard of a song called "Love Hurts" by Nazareth?

For another story about love, check out my posting for today.

As usual, I love your illustrations & photos.

Matt said...

I don't have deep feelings to express, but that picture made me feel sad. In a thoughtful way though.

Blondie said...

Yeah, love sucks. I'm in a No Love zone right now. I'll get back to it someday...!

Irene said...

Sweet Susan: Exactly. Love is one of the greatest mysteries of life. No matter how much we try to dissect it and comprehend it, there will be always more to it than we can grasp. But I still love the whole idea of it and believe that true love is worth the suffering that can come with it. c",)

JR: Nazareth's song was in fact the inspiration for the title of my entry. c",)

Matt: Being in love can indeed bring sadness. But it can bring tons of happiness, too! (",)

Blondie: I wish you all the best in finding a love that doesn't suck! :p

M J said...

Yep, love sucks. I am doing my best to avoid it at present.

So far so good.

Ces said...

I don't think of love like that all. Love is beautiful. It's sexuality, sensuality and infatuation that gives a person all those feelings. Love is joyful, rewarding, enhancing and life-reaffirming. Yes! I am in love, always have been since when I was a baby and I first recognized my mother. It just went from there to a much bigger world.

Tim Rice said...

That quote is so experientially true when one falls in love with a person who does not reciprocate. And even more so if this person teases you but doesn't mean to let it grow into a relationship with a future.

"Angeldust" said...

What's that addage... "No pain, no gain"?
Or, "There are no free lunches"?

Hmmmmm. Serioulsy, It goes to affirm that there is no "living" without risk

"Angeldust" said...

PS.: Actually, True, Honest Love does NOT hurt.
It is a misconception that "love" hurts.... I'll leave there.

Irene said...

MJ: No matter how much you strive to avoid love, it will still hit you when you least expect it. And when it does, I hope it's the true kind. c",)

Ces: Thanks for the beautiful perspective on love! I myself am a romantic and enjoy having found my true love.

But I also know how crushing it feels to fall for someone who does not or cannot love you back the same way. I think Gaiman's words captured the essence of that maddening, frustrating feeling of unrequited love.

Tim: Exactly. And I only hope that those who have been hurt will persevere and work up the courage to love again. c",)

AngelDust: Lucky indeed are those who have never had their hearts broken. But even if we had been hurt, we shouldn't give up! True love is still worth it all.

Lori Witzel said...

Neil Gaiman is an awesome writer -- and he got it right for sure.

BTW, love your open-hearted blog, and all your creative energy in evidence! Thanks for stopping by mine, and please feel free to come back when you can.

Irene said...

Lori: I most certainly will visit you again. I'm a sucker for poets. c",) Feel at home here as well!

R's Musings said...

Hi Irene,
Thanks for your comment on my poem. As soon as I saw the title of this post, that Nazareth song started churning through my mind! Never heard of Neil Gaiman, but I just looked him up. The Sandman sounds very interesting. Look forward to reading more of your blog.
--Robin

théo said...

hey irene
yes love hurts as long as you think it's should be a free gift "to" you. But the bleeding changes into blessing as soon as life makes you realize it has to be a free gift "from" you. Unfortunately, how reluctant we are to understand that. Too simple, may be.

zeroimpact said...

It's the truth it has happened for so many eons... are we not learning anything?
I guess we are just humans... but nowadays... some just want to toy with us rather than yesteryears where true one lies in those that seeks.
However shrouded it is, I still believe in it... though hurt has become numb at times
:)
Thanks for dropping by...

krystyna said...

Irene, you found a great autor and great quote. It's really powerful and true. And you post it with big art. Wonderful picture and colorful words. I love it.
And what you said: The true love is worth the suffering. True!
Love and Peace to you!

terra shield said...

That's a thought provoking piece...

By the way, i've added you to my blogroll :)

Manhi said...

pic is really nice...

Irene said...

Robin: "The Sandman" is a riveting graphic novel! Thanks for visiting. I'll catch you again soon! c",)

Theo: Great point! Thanks for sharing it with us. Loving simply for the sake of loving is noble, true and pure in itself.

ZeroImpact: I'm glad to know you're still a believer! I wish you all the best in love. (",)

Krystyna: Your comments always make me smile. Love and peace back to you, my bloggerfriend! c",)

TerraShield: I know. I love thought-provoking pieces. :p

Thanks for linking me up. I'll do the same so we can visit each other regularly. Woohoo!

Manhi: You already know I'm wishing you much luck in the fulfillment of your heart's desire. There's still so much for you to experience! c",)

SilverSabre said...

hmm..this post kinda summarises my last year :|

yeah love hurts..it reels us in and grinds us into little bitty pieces.

Im quite sure that at the end the pain will be worth it, but I have yet to experience that.

On a happier note :) Im really glad u were not talking about u, was worried for a second there :)

SS

slaghammer said...

I definitely don't take it for granted, but it feels good to not have to worry about the painful side of love. As long as you preserve a foundation of mutual communication, respect, and trust, nothing can tear it apart.

Kyels said...

It's true that love hurts. But then without love the world would be dull, noh?

I guess when there is pain there will be happiness as well. We cannot have things go the same way or the way we want it to be all the time.

Even though love hurts, but we all still fall in love.

(:

Plus Ultra said...

Irene, This is a lvely blog, I will come back and I am putting you in my favourites

Emma said...

Love does hurt. It stings and breaks my heart and hurts...

Ouch.

dusk&summer said...

wow I love that quote!

Bug said...

Beautiful post!

mysti said...

Very true~! Btw I gave you your five today... lol

Hugs.

"Angeldust" said...

OK... I tip - toe back.
Love and suffering "are not" related - at least there should not be related.
I know that it has always poetically been linked, but factually, there are two separate things, caused by two unraled reasons. Really.

Cathy said...

Irene, that was beautiful and so very true..

Michael C said...

Unfortunately I have had my chest and then subsequently my heart opened. Believe me, it wasn't for love though ;-)

Great post!

Irene said...

SilverSabre: Don't fret, my friend. I'm sure you will one day meet the one person you will be happy to forever play your guitar for. c",)

Slaghammer: Your comment brings to mind one of my favorite songs by INXS entitled "Never Tear Us Apart." Your words are wise ones. In truth, it takes a conscious effort to achieve a pain-free kind of love.

Kyels: True love perseveres no matter what the circumstances. (",)

PlusUltra: Great! Thanks a lot! I'll be looking forward to getting to know you better. c",)

Enchanting Emma: Sweetie, I do hope you one day find a love to take away the ouch. :p

Dusk&Summer: It is a fascinating quote, isn't it? Love it or hate it, one just cannot help but react strongly to it.

Bug: Glad you liked it. Thanks!

Magical Mysti: Oh! Can't wait to see your list. Thanks for playing! c",)

Angeldust: Thanks for commenting again. I agree that love and suffering do not necessarily have to co-exist. It just so happens that many people in love do find themselves suffering for its sake. :p

Cathy: Thanks! c",)

Michael: Congratulations on posting the funniest comment so far. Bwahahaha! Hope your torn-up heart has mended well and is back in pristine condition. :p

Solace Cai said...

I've read that quote so many times, but I don't think I could agree with it any more than I do right now. My splinter isn't "just want to be friends," though, it's "I'm in love with someone else."
...But there's nothing to be done about it.

Maryanne Moll said...

why do i feel like disagreeing?

Alicia said...

So very true.

BTW - thanks for adding my blog to your list! I feel so honored. :-)

Irene said...

Solace Cai: Oh no! I'm sorry to hear about your plight. But don't think that splinter is permanent. Time heals all wounds and soon you'll be good as new and ready to uncover the one truly meant for you. c",)

Maryanne: It must have something to do with the fact that you just had a joyful reunion with your man after a forty-day and forty-night drought! :p

Alicia: My pleasure! I'll be seeing you more often now. Woohoo!

gem said...

Love the use of font and color. The design was as compelling as the content. Yes, I've been there, and I hate the feeling. It's way, way too consuming.

Mimi Lenox said...

Lori is right. Your blog is open-hearted. Perfect word. Your post cut to the quick. Made me sad and happy at the same time. Even though love can rip us apart, it also has the power to heal it all up again and make us whole.

Irene said...

Precious Gem: Somehow, I cannot imagine you experiencing the pain of unrequited love. How in the world can anyone NOT love you back? :p

Queen Mimi: That I am. I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. And I gather you are quite the same way, too. (",)

Life's too short to keep everything bottled up inside. Sometimes, it's good to just let it out and trust others with our deepest feelings. c",)

-Princess Shin- said...

#Better be loved than not experience love at all..#

or something to that effect! Love is indeed beautiful.. There's parental love, friendship love and deep passionate love. It is whether we wanna open up our hearts or not! Most important though is to love ourselves coz only with that can we start loving others. Take care!

Thebodytalk said...

Hye Irene

been away for a while? I just linked to you on my blog. I have been intending to do that. Finally, I have done it.
Hope to have you back soon.

Irene said...

Princess Shin: Such wise words from such a young woman! c",)

TheBodyTalk: Thanks for missing me! :p

Been busy at work but you know I always make it a point to check my blog reguarly. Thanks for linking me up! I did the same for you. Yay! c",)

Ellee said...

It can be different too, but those memories always pale into insignificance compared to those hurtful ones you mentioned. Who hasn't been there hasn't lived.

Irene said...

Ellee: Well said. Heartache is part of what we have to go through as human beings and we become better and stronger because of it. c",)

Icey said...

Love does hurt but I would rather know what it feels like to BE loved and IN love than not!!

THANK YOU SO MUCH for visiting my little piece of blog-heaven!

Irene said...

Icey: Well-said! You go, girl! c",) Here's wishing you all the best in love. Catch you again soon!

Claudia said...

Beatiful...and so true. It reminds me of the line in Love Actually, in which Liam Neeson's character laughs at the boy..."you're in love? is that it? I thought it would be something much worse?"
The boy answers, "What could be worse than the total agony of being in love?"

Irene said...

Hi Claudia! I love that movie and I love that scene. I know exactly what you mean! The boy was thinking along the same lines as Gaiman when he spoke of the agony of love. Sigh!

Have a happy, pain-free, love-filled weekend! c",)